Last night I took Hubby out for a date night. He knew it was date night but I did not give him any details other than that ahead of time. Boy was he surprised with what I planned for the evening!
If you do not plan date nights with your spouse/partner I highly suggest that you do. I understand if you have kids that it is harder to do, but really try to make time at least once a month if you can. Ask a close friend to swap babysitting once a month – they watch your kids for your date night and you watch theirs for their date night. If you are lucky enough to have grandparents or other family nearby ask them to babysit the kids. Our son has moved out now so it is not an issue for us any longer, but I do remember those days. The date night has should be about the TWO of you and spending real time together. No kids, no work, no distractions from enjoying each other’s company. Try to think outside the box a little too, that is what I did this time.
On Groupon (a site for local deals) I happened to notice a deal for a local shooting range. Now this is not really my type of thing at all but Hubby likes target shooting when we go to the lake house and he hunts. I’ve shot rifles and shotguns myself with him as well occasionally, shooting at empty cans, targets, etc. and it is okay for a little bit to me but not something I would just do on my own. I’m not anti-gun, but I am not a gun fanatic in the slightest. The deal thought was just $49 for an hour at the shooting range and you got your choice of over twenty different types of guns, 100 rounds of ammo, the targets, all the safety gear, etc. for 2 people. I knew Hubby would like this so I bought the Groupon deal. Then I found another deal for one of his favorite places to eat, Cheeburger Cheeburger, and got that on Groupon also. It was hard not to tell him because I was excited that it was a date night I knew he would like. I kept the secret though.
Once Hubby got home from work yesterday and cleaned up, we headed out. I even drove! He still had no idea where we were going and he did not know about this shooting range even so there was no guessing it. When we got there and he saw the sign that said Ultimate Defense he knew it was something good. When we parked we could hear the shooting inside and he asked excitedly, “are we going shooting?” I said yes and he said, “f*&$ing awesome!” Yay, he really did like the idea. We went in and filled out the paperwork and he got to pick out the guns and then we headed into shoot. He was focusing on the task so I wasn’t positive at first if he was enjoying it but then I figured out he just wanted to concentrate on the task at hand. He loved that I was shooting too. On top of the activity he loved that he found a place near home that he could take classes and practice shooting too.
Next it was time for dinner. I drove again. He still had no idea where we were going until I got off the highway and then he guessed. He was just as excited about that too. It is his favorite burger place, you pick from a ton of toppings to make your own burger. They also have milkshakes, which he loves, where you can pick from tons of flavors and mix them together also. A yummy meal, but I did eat a tad too much of not so good for you food myself – oops!
I asked Hubby at dinner what he thought I had planned. He said maybe I was going to take him to the movies or to the Muny Opera (an outside theater that does stage shows). Ha! WRONG! I specially picked the places for date night that I knew HE would like. He is pretty flexible, a people pleaser type of personality, and will go and do anything with me usually, but I wanted to make him feel special this time. These are not things I would have picked for myself, but part of my enjoyment of the date was seeing how happy he was about it. I have tried to do this more often actually. My weight loss has helped me want to do more things anyway and this includes going to the lake more, going on hikes, and even going along to Bass Pro Shops with him more often. For years he has tried to do things I like and it was not always a two-way street. Hubby is much happier that I am trying to meet his needs now too.
So when is the last time you had a date night that you planned specifically to make your spouse happy? What did you do?[signoff]
P.S. Hubby, if you are reading this, I love you!
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