Working Through Your Stuff

by Robyn Wright on June 11, 2015

in Health

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Along with working on our bodies to get healthier, we always have to work on our minds. Luckily, we can work on both of those things and they help each other at the same time. Don’t you love when things work out like that?

stuff (noun): all of those emotions, triggers, and thoughts that cause you to be closed and not enjoy life as much as possible

I was browsing Gaiam TV’s site yesterday after doing my yoga in the morning (disclosure: I am compensated as a member of the #MyYoga team for Gaiam, opinions are my own) and came across a great post, 4 Ways to Move Through Your Emotions: Loveolution Project, by Holly Peckskamp. It jumped out at me actually because this is what I am working on in therapy – getting through those painful memories, dealing with the emotions, and moving forward.

We all tend to repress things that are emotionally hard for us. It is our brains way of trying to protect us and it is pretty good at it. However, that same protection also can prevent us from moving forward and being overall happier people. In my therapy sessions my therapist helps me get to those hard spots and instead of trying to block them out, she helps me sit with those hard feelings and just let them be there. This is really hard. However, it helps! When we take the time to work through that pain it lessens. The triggers that may have taken you back to that memory are slowly weakened, you may still feel that pain but you understand what it is and can deal with it – it doesn’t feel uncertain or unmanageable.

It really is an interesting path that I am on. While therapy can be emotionally exhausting and it actually shakes up things in the real world as you learn new ways, it is also very freeing. I used to go to therapy and dread the hard work, now I go to therapy and while I know hard work is coming I can also appreciate that it is helping me be the best me I can.

Making the connection between my body and my mind took a long time. Before I did not understand that some of my eating habits where actually defenses for my emotions. I did not realize that those nervous habits of tapping my fingers or shaking my foot when I am angry where ways that I was releasing some of that painful energy, but yet not really dealing with it. One of the big things my therapist helps me do is make that connection. She guides me through the process and helps me focus asking me often things like, “does that feeling have a sound”, “where does that land in your body”, “what emotion is attached to that movement”, etc. I didn’t get it when she first started doing this, but now I really do and it is fascinating.

This is why the post I found on Gaiam caught my eye. She talks about becoming aware, sitting with your emotions, releasing emotions and learning in life. Tools I am using to help, especially with releasing emotions, are yoga and meditation. It may sound ood, but sometimes I cry after yoga – but it is because it is helping me feel and move those emotions. The body is connecting with the mind! While I used to say “don’t cry” to myself and others, now I’m all about crying it out – it helps!

I also want to mention that Gaiam TV has Here and Now: A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation that is really helpful if you are new to this or just need a refresher.

How do you work through your “stuff”? Are you able to connect your body and mind?

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1 tannawings June 12, 2015 at 8:21 pm

I have always tended to work through stuff by being outside and doing things. The summer is the very best… there is gardening etc. In the winter is a bit tougher, but I gave been known to walk in a snowstorm if I need out.

2 Robyn Wright June 18, 2015 at 5:32 pm

I would walk around in the snow before the heat of summer any day!

3 Julie Wood June 13, 2015 at 10:28 am

I like yoga and meditation too! It helps me relax. It is hard work when it comes to therapy and getting the counseling that we need to help us change from some of the bad experiences that we have had happen to us in life. I think that with some of the trauma that we experience we can learn to cope and learn about how we feel. I know that I can change how I feel that I realize what happened to me as a child will always affect me. I am learning better coping skills.

4 Robyn Wright June 18, 2015 at 5:33 pm

Yes, very hard work. And sadly, hard to find a good therapist too – I’m glad I found mine! She rocks!

5 Shirlee White June 18, 2015 at 5:17 pm

Activity thru tennis helps a relaxation process that allows one to function effectively and efficiently.

6 Robyn Wright June 18, 2015 at 5:33 pm

I haven’t played tennis in years, may have to give that a try again!

7 Monique July 25, 2015 at 11:42 am

I have finally found a way to work through my stuff…through writing. I start to journal my feelings and find that to help me. We all need a way to get our feelings out.

8 michelle matta July 31, 2015 at 2:28 pm

I couldn’t get to this place you speak of for the longest time because yoga and meditation always say to focus on your breath. I have a serious lung disease that has me waiting for new lungs.. so focusing on my breath only causes more anxiety and i give up fast. Recently, though, a book and a friend mentioned focusing on body parts, sounds or other options. I am fascinated and motivated when I notice how often I clench my hands or other muscles. I will do this for life.. and moreso when I have the breathing ability back. :)

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